Just Keep
Swimming- How to Avoid Sinking into Despair Defeat is an endless
cycle that college students are persistently and relentlessly swept
away in. Massive waves of books that need to be studied, classwork
due-dates, and impending tests frequently make them feel as though
they are drowning. These students become paralyzed, sinking into
the despairing belief that they cannot possibly get everything
done. Others find a way to accomplish all of their requirements,
but even these go-getter students are not immune to defeat: their
drive to succeed may be so strong that a bad grade on an assignment
will make them question their potential for
success.
Whatever the case, college students are prone to wonder whether or
not they can truly handle
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American
culture places a great deal of emphasis upon attaining goals and
reaching for the stars, and while this attitude can inspire
greatness, it can also cripple it. Students tend to worry too much
about the expectations that they have set for themselves and have
had placed upon them by others. Fear and worry cause these young
adults to internalize their failures (however few or abundant) and
conclude that they must not be capable of the greatness that is
expected of them. They assume that their every action is being
judged for worthiness, and will thus impact their future. While
this is true to a certain extent, (there are some things that can
earn a person a permanently bad track record), a bad grade or two
does not define a students success- or their ability as a person
to succeed in general. In life, typically, the only one keeping a
scorecard of your successes and failures is you, and there are
ample opportunities to learn the lessons you need to learn, even if
you didnt get it right the first- or fifth- time. (Roth, 21).
Bernard Roth, author of The Achievement Habit and professor at
Stanford University said this in the middle of a story about his
own failures. Failure does not mean that success cannot be
attained, but is rather a normal and fundamental part of the
journey to
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Research has
long stressed the need for
disempowered groups to have role
models...as exemplars of achievement. (Crosby, 115). Young adults
have a deep-seated need for mentors, and college students are no
exception to this- in fact, they are an age group that particularly
benefits from a having a guiding hand as they navigate this
tumultuous phase of life. Upperclassmen who are focused and do well
in class (as well as grad students who are teaching or studying
nearby) can be a great asset to struggling college students; these
older mentors have already been through the same experiences and
found their own methods of building and maintaining
self-esteem. Other potential mentors can include teachers and
other school faculty, or anyone else that a student can rely upon
for respected behavior and reliable advice. These mentor
friendships also give college students a stable person to bond
with, which can be vital to the students ability to thrive and
feel at home in their college environment. In order to gain sound
advice and learn how to succeed, college students should seek out
strong role models in their surroundings and emulate these role
models habits and
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